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Because of difficulties verifying the sender and ensuring client safety, WEAVE can not respond to message board posts which contain s. I have done more than one person should to be an awesome wife and change things about myself my husband put me down for like being a bartender because I thought his respect was something I could earn I have never disrespected or gone outside of my marriage and I am ashamed to say that from the very beginning even when we were dating he did very disrespectful things but he would apologized and I would want to believe him so I did.
Fast forward almost 10 years we have been married 2 years when I met him he was a forklift driver for Costco in firefighter School I have nursed him through surgeries move to the other coast left everyone I know and loved so that he could start his career and that is when it all started. I am not worried about proving that he choked me because not only do I have the marks on my neck I have petechiae in my eyes which only comes from strangulation and lack of oxygen the thing is he is a firefighter thanks to the support he pretends like he never got from me and he tells me that he will get away with it because he knows all the police officers and I will be the one who ends up in jail I want to go get a protection order and have him removed from this house when it is he said she said and he has marks on him from me trying to get away from him are the police smart enough to see what those marks are and how they would happen or am I going to end up in jail for being stupid enough to marry a piece of crap who would rather hurt me then make me smile.
I am divorcing him that is what the fight was about me getting half of the house.
He is a very cruel very mean very vindictive person who would have no problem lying for his own benefit I honestly believe he is a sociopath is definitely bipolar. I just need some advice on how to go about staying safe in this house why my lawyer gets me half of it and half of his pension to. Who would think things up like that to begin with? The worse part is since that time he suddenly changed drastically toward me, and he has been calling me horrible names, he shows out by abusing me outside so others see how he is punishing me for being whatever he decides that day, liar, stupid, crazy, gold digger, lazy, disgusted and tired of supporting me and my family untrue every word of it, he shows off and complains about me and hes been doing the complaining since day one!
Hes saying other nasty degrading dehumanizing things about me that are evil. Then he shows up with new friends much younger and the girl is all over him in our house, making me cook and clean. So is there a connection? Who is doing this to our family? What is the best thing for dealing with this?
My husband has locked me out of the house more than once and turn off all the lights.
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Please on our hour support and information line at to speak with an advocate. We hope to be able to provide you with some support and assistance during this time. Although we try to answer questions to the best of our ability, we are unable to answer any legal questions or provide legal advice on our message board.
We recommend contacting the Family Justice Center at or our legal team at My boyfriend tortured me for months with not allowing me to sleep. Then he manipulated me into using meth to get to work because he said it would help me feel better after an injury. I tried turning it down over and over again, but he pretty much made me do it. Now I am addicted to the drug and afraid that if I go to rehab he will hurt my 19 year old daughter.
He has threatened my life on multiple occasions and he even kicked me in the ribs.
I moved an hour away from my old home because he said he had a job. He never helped with any bills and has prevented me fr. He made sure I did not have a car to drive for over a year now. We would gladly like to assist you with any guidance we could offer. We are here to help you determine a solution that you believe is best for yourself. Please contact our hour support and information line atto speak with an advocate and receive more resources.
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My husband and I have always had a bad relationship and he has always gaslighted me and been emotionally abusive to me. About 10 years ago he started being physically abusive also. He has done these things in front my kids numerous times, but its the worst when no one is around. Most everytime he is angry he kicks me out of the house. This has been going on since the beginning of our relationship. I have tried to leave him several times over the last 10 years but I have failed to make it on my own everytime.
He is always reminding me that they will always choose him over me. I love them so much. Please help. If you feel comfortable, we would love to talk with you more on our 24 hour support line. Any services we offer are completely voluntary, and you get to choose how we might support you. You can reach us at Hi, I am so sorry this has been your experience.
You seem to need more support and options. Please contact our hour support and information line at for assistance and more resources that may be helpful for you. We would love to speak with you and offer you support. We hope to hear from you soon. That can be so difficult. Sometimes, people have to try several different counselors before finding the right fit. Some people find it really helpful to see a counselor regularly so that they have a trusted person to talk to.
You know yourself best, but if this sounds helpful for you there are a few ways you can find counseling. The Hope Cooperative has a warm line you can call for emotional support at We try to answer all questions thoroughly, but our expertise is in the fields of domestic violence, sexual assault, and sex trafficking.
Unfortunately, your question is out of the scope of what we can answer on the message boards. Hi there, thanks for reaching out today. It sounds like you have some concerns about your neighbors wellbeing. Your neighber can also call our 24 hour support line at I have a toxic family and would appreciate not having to constantly feel weak at my parents words.
Emotional abuse. Nothing physical. My whole life emotional abuse. I called the cops after hearing the boyfriend beat my daughter? With the baby in the home. I was in a decent relationship for 20 years. The police have been a few times. U never ever leave and and mother in the home with a abuser!! It can be so terrifying and frustrating to watch your child go through something like this. While this can be scary, we must trust that they know their relationship best.
Some find our safety planning PDFs helpful. The national domestic violence hotline can also offer 24 hour support and information via phone or chat. They can be reached at: 1 My question is how long do I stay?
Why does she treat me like this? Both of us have very different kind of issues. They have been caught talking to old flame of which has an active order of protection against them. Truthfully, I did take it upon myself to look though the phone. Invading privacy sure, but I feel that once we have been sexual privacy kinda becomes shared.
I am very open with my phone and anyone I chat with even in passing. Upon asking her about it she turns the blame and makes me feel at fault. I know I could be better and I actively try to correct my faults before they happen and then when they happen trying to learn. Cut to recently she has been talking to some guy on snap for a month and is still calling victim.